The Rambling Gypsy
Welcome to The Rambling Gypsy Podcast, where Tiffany Foy and friends invite you to join them on their porch for a candid conversation about the quirks and adventures that make up their lives. From Tiffany's eclectic collection of animals to the chaos and joys of raising boys, there's nothing held back as they share their unfiltered perspectives.
With a refreshing honesty and a refusal to sugarcoat anything, this podcast delves into the various oddities and peculiarities that come in life's way. From hilarious anecdotes to thought-provoking discussions, they explore the everyday moments that shape their experiences.
Fortunate to be porching it, Tiffany and friends create an inviting atmosphere where authenticity thrives. They unapologetically embrace their unique journey, inviting listeners to do the same. This podcast is not for everyone, but it is for some; those who appreciate unfiltered, real-life conversations that don't shy away from the messy and imperfect aspects of living.
Join us as we gather around the virtual porch and immerse ourselves in the stories, insights, and laughter that The Rambling Gypsy Podcast brings. Whether you're a fellow animal lover or a parent navigating the rollercoaster of boyhood, this podcast will entertain, inspire, and remind you that it's okay to embrace life's imperfections.
So grab a seat, put on your headphones, and get ready for a delightful journey of laughter, reflection, and unscripted joy. Welcome to The Rambling Gypsy Podcast, where we invite you to be part of our vibrant and unfiltered world.
The Rambling Gypsy
Sweeping Seagulls & Sweating through the Sheets
We've got Kel back on the porch, and we're unraveling the threads of hormones, motherhood, and postpartum awareness with a blend of humor and raw honesty. From battling ovarian cysts to navigating societal pressures on pregnancy and hormone replacement therapy, we're not holding back in sharing our own crazy experiences. Like that beachside tampon mishap involving an unsuspecting seagull. Yeah, we're diving into all things menstruation and the unexpected support we receive from our partners in those blush-worthy moments. We're also tackling the serious stuff like psychiatric help for post-pregnancy hormonal imbalances. It's a candid look at the necessity of understanding our bodies, leaning on friends, and finding laughter in the midst of life's chaos.
The Rambling Gypsy podcast is a behind-the-scenes look at the lives of real Texans doing real sh*t. We're pulling back the curtains on our daily lives - and you're invited to laugh and learn along with us.
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We're ready, sure, we are ready. We're rolling, we are ready. Are you ready? Not a song. Who you calling Someone who cares? Yeah?
Speaker 1:Are you ready? Ok, hey we're live.
Speaker 2:I think we're live. You got to go. You got to go. Got to go, mahala, at you later.
Speaker 1:Hey Kel.
Speaker 2:Hey girl, hey everybody, Welcome to the Rainel and Gypsy podcast. Welcome, I'm Tiffany Foy. This is my girlfriend. Look who's back. I'm back On the porch. Kel-kel, kel-kel's, back on the porch. We missed you last week, oh, did you?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I was real worried that guy was going to come in, bring your thing towards you, so they can hear you.
Speaker 2:There you are.
Speaker 1:Flash that dimple and get me fired on my day off you know it was good, it was fun, we had a great time.
Speaker 2:You know Matt's a good guy. You like Matt. Matt's a good dude.
Speaker 1:He is a good dude.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So you guys had a good time.
Speaker 2:We did. We had a really good time, but we did miss you and the porch missed you.
Speaker 1:I missed the porch.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I did go to the river, so it was worth it.
Speaker 2:It was spring break last week. You got away. You got to go and do some fun stuff.
Speaker 1:How to take them kids on a little adventure. You know how it goes. Yeah, got to see some Ryan being at the Frio.
Speaker 2:Your shirt was adorable it was amazing. Thank you, that was very cute. That was cute.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it was sad to miss out, but I was thinking about you guys.
Speaker 2:I know Stalking you on the porch it's going to happen from time to time where you can't hang with us on the porch, and I understand, but we'll be all right.
Speaker 1:We'll figure it out. She's facing me out of the schedule. Shut up.
Speaker 2:You know that's never going to happen. That's never going to happen. Well, I've been. We had Matt on the podcast. So we had Matt on the porch Porch, our podcast, because we're fortunate to be porch knit. Yeah, we are. And but what are we going to talk about today? Oh my gosh. So you know, hormones are a real thing, and let me tell you about what's going on with me right now. So you know, we got all them cheerings. You got a couple couple two, I got a couple three and I don't know ladies with it. I guess everybody kind of deals with it on their in their own way, sort fashion.
Speaker 1:Well, I don't think people like to talk about stuff like that. It's not pretty, it's not fun.
Speaker 2:It's a full on. It's a full on thing. I mean it is, it is, it's a major issue. It has been with me since I was little, was told I was never going to have children because I had ovarian cyst. And I mean, you're in the medical thing, in the medical world, in the medical industry, right, so you, I'm sure you hear, I mean, and you see all the issues and all the possibilities and everything that could go wrong.
Speaker 1:Right, and you know people just take for granted that you know they get pregnant and they have a baby and right, there's a lot of struggles that go along with that that people endure without telling anyone because it's embarrassing or you know loss and gain and IVF and all the trials and fails. And then people say things like when are you going to have another one? And this person's actually going through a real hard time.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know I watch that and even these babies it's. I mean, they're all blessing, just to come to make it this far.
Speaker 2:But well, I didn't have any trouble obviously having kids. I have three boys, so it all, it all kind of worked out, you beat the odds. Yeah, definitely, and it was. I didn't. You know I was on birth control for a while and you know they tell you if you, depending on how long you're on it and what have you, that you?
Speaker 1:might take a while, right.
Speaker 2:And with me that really wasn't so much the case, and so it was kind of kind of shocking. But anyways, have three children and then, oh my goodness, you go through. I mean, of course, people have postpartum after you have children and nobody really understands. Is that a real thing? You damn right, it's a real full on freaking thing. And if you've, I did not have postpartum depression.
Speaker 1:No I mean, I think you did, I think you get into a funk kind of, when you're like I got to get all these pajamas, I got to take a shower, Like you're just dealing with a baby all day, every day. I mean it's like you kind of get sucked into that world. But I had one of those jobs where you get maternity leave and then you have to go back.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I had to. I was about to work I needed to go back.
Speaker 1:I'm a shout out to those stay at home moms, because that shit is more exhausting than going to work.
Speaker 2:So did you have any postpartum depression or no? I?
Speaker 1:mean, I think I questioned my life a lot and it was just like hormones leaving my body. Like waking up, with the sweats freaking out Like why didn't I think of this? I've already done this once. I should have put the bassinet over there and I'm, like, you know, crying about it or I'm upset about it, but it wasn't like as severe as that. It wasn't like the deep dark that I have seen Right In other people.
Speaker 2:Yeah, my sister had it really bad after her second child and it was that was probably the first time that I really experienced it on a personal level, because we were so close and we were inseparable and it was. It was really deep and dark it is. It is very, very scary and it's most people don't realize, I guess, or men don't realize, what women go through hormone-wise.
Speaker 1:I mean it's physically, emotionally, it's yeah, it's a lot.
Speaker 2:It is a lot. It is a lot and all.
Speaker 1:I can do is watch and try to give you a hug, right. You're fine, you're still pretty.
Speaker 2:I swear, or they just think you're psycho.
Speaker 1:Well you know, Right, and you also think you're psycho. So it's, you know, especially if you've not experienced anything like that, it's probably not a good time.
Speaker 2:That's kind of where I was after after having the kids you, you mean my gosh, I mean. Look, we all know women have periods. I don't know that may grow, shawl out or whatever it is Go ahead and say it. You know, yeah, we're not real excited about it either. Nobody is I mean it is what it is.
Speaker 1:Nobody's more mad than us.
Speaker 2:Oh, my Lanta. I know it's inconvenient for you two but I'm actually bleeding. Yeah, I mean it sucks. I gotta plan my outfit around.
Speaker 1:This Absolutely sucks. Yeah, of course it's the beach trip or it's. You know, it's never no never, never, convenient.
Speaker 2:Oh my God. I just thought of the most obnoxious story.
Speaker 1:Here it comes. Oh shit, Throw it in, sprinkle it.
Speaker 2:Do I? Yeah, come on. I don't know if the world is ready, okay well for this one. Okay, I'm gonna throw this one out there and then I'm gonna go back and tell you how I died from lack of hormones and what's going on with me right now. But I am gonna tell you all this story and, oh Lord, we're gonna get really up close and personal and this is really fucking hard.
Speaker 1:There's no such thing as TMI. I think we've come too far.
Speaker 2:I don't know, this one might be it. This one might be it. Or I could just leave y'all hanging and make y'all tune into the next episode, and I could just stay tuned for the secret story that we were saving.
Speaker 1:Yeah, remind us.
Speaker 2:So, okay, I'm gonna do it. Lord forgive me, for I have sinned Again. I know yeah, all right, here we go, oh shit. So I was at the beach when you just reminded me that it's never. You can't ever plan your periods and your menstrual cycle and call it whatever the hell you want, I don't give a shit.
Speaker 1:You call it your death cycle is what we call it.
Speaker 2:It's time, but oh, I can't believe.
Speaker 1:I'm about to tell you guys this this is a fucking Well, the fact that you're hesitating so much makes me wanna kinda.
Speaker 2:Okay, so here we go, I'm gonna do it. So, yep, it was that time and we're at the beach and my sister's car was there and we were. I needed to change my tampons.
Speaker 2:Take care of the business, Okay look, y'all know I mean some of you men are adorable and that you can go and shop and go get your wife the box of tampons. My husband is one of those that has never, ever thought twice about it. He's always been the one that just will go and get it. Never been embarrassed, never. It's a real thing.
Speaker 1:It is.
Speaker 2:Some people, some men will do it.
Speaker 1:Others are like yeah, oh my God, I can't touch this.
Speaker 2:Absolutely not. There's no way in hell that. I don't even know what you're talking about.
Speaker 1:I don't know nothing.
Speaker 2:But mine's never been that way. So anyways, changing the tampon, and I've got both the car doors open, my sister brings the beach towel and is I'll sit up Right, and so that's my. She got you back. Literally that's my dressing room. So just yeah. Well, I guess I don't know.
Speaker 1:I had a strip naked like that, so this is the horrible part.
Speaker 2:So I go and I'm going to chunk this tampon. Okay, maybe I'll have her. It's so bad, it's all coming back to me now, oh my God, and you know the seagulls, mine, mine, mine, mine, oh my God. And this seagull swoops down and I'm thinking I'm chunking it in the dunes, right? No, wait, nope Show what I've got.
Speaker 1:I guess where this went. Yeah, it's too big. It's moving to the distance Circle of life.
Speaker 2:Oh, my God. We look up and this seagull is now flying across the ocean and I don't know how red my face is right now and I really don't. I don't want to know, I don't want.
Speaker 1:She's not even gonna wash this episode.
Speaker 2:No, I'm gonna tell her guys to please block this part out. Yeah, so the seagull took off with my tampon in front of God and everyone and I lost my ever-loving man, there's not a lot to say after that. Anyways there you have it Now. That's one of the most embarrassing moments and you're welcome.
Speaker 1:My name's Tini and I'm an alcoholic yeah, keep coming back, tiffany. I can't. This is terrible.
Speaker 2:Oh my Lord, I cannot believe so when you were saying something about hormones. I did have cyst, I had a very incest, and which is why they said you know, they didn't think I was gonna be able to have children. Blah, blah, blah. Oh we are three boys later. Everything's fine, boys are good.
Speaker 1:So don't give up.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's, you can do it, you can do it all night long, you can do it. But so now, so later on in life? Obviously, here we are, yes, and I am losing my ever-loving mind, and this is after the third child, and I'm thinking, okay, I am like way after yeah, so Garrison was shoot. He was probably, oh, three or four. I'm thinking and I'm thinking of yeah, I'm losing my ever-loving mind.
Speaker 1:Something is happening Like yeah, I don't have any idea what's going on?
Speaker 2:I mean, I just I'm emotional, I'm hot, I'm sweaty, I'm angry, I'm having night sweats, I am can't decide if I'm hot, cold whatever.
Speaker 1:And three little hungry boys. They want me to feed them all the time I know.
Speaker 2:Close on, close off, get off me, touch me, I'm freezing. And then you're just it's freaking horrible and go to a doctor and they do. They've got all kinds of hormone replacements that you're gonna do, and so I started. Do they test your blood? They do. They do a full on blood panel, supposedly at this place.
Speaker 1:And hormone levels, and then they say you're out of whack, here's your stuff. Yeah.
Speaker 2:You're missing this. You're missing that of course. And you're getting older and blah, blah, blah, yeah, whatever I know what it was.
Speaker 1:They always say that we know okay.
Speaker 2:And so I start the pellets, and then that does really good for about a year or so, maybe two, and then I'm right back to coconuts.
Speaker 1:You noticed a big difference, though, and then you can feel it.
Speaker 2:Started off for a while, and then I took a dive, and so then the doctor's like you know what, I don't know what to do with you anymore. You're pretty much on your own, I'm thinking. Okay well, I've been on my own so I've seen that show snapped Yelp and I've seen it. We've all seen it. Yeah, I've seen the.
Speaker 1:They need to get their levels checked. That's what's happening.
Speaker 2:Seriously, you know.
Speaker 1:I guess some of them had it coming though. I mean, I have seen that show yeah.
Speaker 2:So I move on, and I actually had moved back into new novels, which I really branched out, but really far. I was all the way in Bolverde. Oh, it's just about to say wait, I'm so far away. How far did she go? Yeah, right down the road. Okay, I just crossed the county line and parked right there.
Speaker 1:So I could say I don't live in Camel County anymore. This is not St.
Speaker 2:County Rap. Yeah. So I go, I call around and I get me a psychiatrist and I'm thinking, okay, maybe this is the route to go After talking to my girlfriends and doing like you and I do on the porch and Right, is this crazy? Is this me Right?
Speaker 1:read this Is this situational?
Speaker 2:Did I overreact on this situation?
Speaker 1:What would you have done? Yeah, and clearly what could I do differently?
Speaker 2:I mean, of course, we never think it's us. No, yeah well, horseshit. At this point I knew it was me. I'm thinking, no, there's something.
Speaker 1:There's Thumbs up. This is absolutely me.
Speaker 2:I don't even know who I am at this point. And so I go in and I literally have a nervous breakdown. I sit down and talk to this guy and he says you know, when I was in residency, there was a doctor that was in school with me and what have you? And she, full on, says that this is a thing, that hormones and women is an absolute thing, that y'all aren't just a bunch of black jobs, that you don't just go. You know, batshit, crazy, scientifically proven, it's a thing. And she was like she's been fighting for this whole deal. Everybody thinks she's crazy and I'm like, yeah, well, that's why I'm sitting here, because I think I'm crazy as well.
Speaker 1:Where's the crazy lady? Can I talk to her?
Speaker 2:Yeah, and so I mean I'm hysterical and I'm telling him everything. I'm in there for hours on end and he's taking all these notes.
Speaker 1:Two big computer screens Pouring your heart out to a stranger? Yes, please help me.
Speaker 2:I'm begging, literally legit begging for help. So if you women are ever I mean if y'all are in this situation or whatever do not.
Speaker 1:It is not all in your mind.
Speaker 2:No, it's not, and thank goodness that I found this guy. And I mean it took, like I'm trying to say, it took from going to one doctor to another doctor, to one doctor saying you know what, I don't know what the hell to do with you? You're just, you're just waxed Next, yeah, exactly, I need you to move.
Speaker 1:If you don't like your doctor that's too short, find another one.
Speaker 2:There you go. They don't listen to you find another one Same husband all that Nobody wants to be married to an asshole. No, nobody wants to have an asshole doctor, dickhead doctor, nope. So just move on. And so I did. And he said, would you mind if I contact her and talk to her about you? And I said, look, I don't care if you call Jesus Call the team. I don't care if you call Santa Claus, I don't. I don't care, please.
Speaker 1:Find some answers. I'm begging you and help me.
Speaker 2:Yes to help me that this is a full on thing. So he does, and he, I come back for my next appointment and he said you know, this is what we're gonna do. We're gonna start on a natural supplement. We're gonna start this and because I really did not want to be on meds I mean, nobody wants to be on meds, you know for the rest of your life or whatever?
Speaker 1:Try to live with it. And everybody said you know yeah, cause then it's.
Speaker 2:I mean, the world is a crazy place and it's it it. It doesn't help or doesn't make you feel any better when you've got somebody that says you need to take your meds or oh no, you're acting whacked because you you're taking your meds or you know, double your dosage, so nobody wants to hear that. That's just gonna fuck with your head. So I just, I just didn't want to go that route. So we start the El Natural route.
Speaker 2:And that was adorable, that was adorable and yeah, so we go in. That takes six months. We up, like, the vitamin D, we up the zinc, all kinds of Try, all the other things first yeah, random stuff. And then I go back in and he says, well, let's go back to the drawing board. How do you feel? Yeah, well, I'm still.
Speaker 1:Okay, yeah, still crazy. Your sugar pills aren't helping.
Speaker 2:Nope.
Speaker 1:And I, I still want to snap people in half. Let's kick it up a notch, yeah.
Speaker 2:And so, and I don't know how your cycle has been, I mean, have you been like a normal? Are you one of those that knows on the 15th of the month?
Speaker 1:that it's going to hit you. I have an IUD, so I don't have a period anymore.
Speaker 2:So I've never, ever been, but even when you were a child. Oh, like, like Were you like, were you a normal Pretty Boom, boom, boom, boom. Yeah, that was never me. I didn't know if it was coming going, if it was going to be here one day, if it was not going to be here the next.
Speaker 1:I have an app for that. Now, you know, unless you don't need it anymore.
Speaker 2:Yeah, right, my app would. Yeah, you have had 67 days since your last cycle oh yeah, no, I'd blow that app completely up. Yeah, They'd all be like, oh no.
Speaker 1:Please seek medical attention immediately. Exactly, please see attendance. If this is an emergency, please hang up and call 911. Yeah, 911. No shit, I would have called 911 first if it was an emergency.
Speaker 2:Right, yeah, and I was pretty much to that point. So, yeah, if you guys are wondering if hormones are a real thing, yeah, it was me, I was losing my shit. So so you kicked it up a notch, I did, and so we did six months and he said okay, look, I know you don't want to do this full-time medication thing, but However, let's do this.
Speaker 1:That is the orange jumpsuit.
Speaker 2:Uh-huh, yes, yep, we've already talked about. Oh, I do not like those clothes, those flippers, those slipper thingy. Magiggers are ugly.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:Orange is not your color, no. And so he said here's what we're going to do. We're going to do as soon as you know when your cycle is about to happen, I want you to take them. So, like seven days prior, and I just laughed.
Speaker 1:I was like I don't know, seven minutes prior.
Speaker 2:I was like you've got to be kidding me, right? I was like I told you. I said I have no idea when this is happening. Is it there in the chart what's really going on? Yeah, so he said, just try it, let's. I mean that's. So I go back and you know me, I take my assignments very seriously. It's just like the calendar when I have homework. I take it very seriously. Yes, you do. So I go home and I'm going to. I'm going to do this. Why have no freaking clue when this shit's going to happen? Did?
Speaker 1:you write it down or like a dot on the calendar.
Speaker 2:You know how I knew my husband was like you know what? Today's the day you need to take your medicine. Well, let me tell you what. If you think I was pissed before, have your husband tell you you need to take your freaking medicine. And I was like you know what you need to do. You need to take some medicine. You need to back the hell up, you need to take a lap Walk it off.
Speaker 1:Somebody better take a lap. This is going to get bad. Yeah, you don't want to mess with the hormonal woman. I know, that's just bad.
Speaker 2:So what do I do? I was like, all right, fine, so I take my yep and I do, and it's and it. We kind of started seeing. That was my, that was my alarm clock. Was him telling me, pms precursor you?
Speaker 1:know what you need to. It's coming. You need to take them Right.
Speaker 2:So then we go back and he says okay, look, you know how's everything going. And I said well, I mean it's. He said did you figure it out? And I said yeah, I did I guess. It was my husband that had to tell me when I needed to take my medicine. When I didn't, and I said and he goes. And I said well, that just pissed me the fuck off. And he was like oh shit, now I'm even more mad, is this a?
Speaker 2:good thing, is this a bad thing? And you got some for that. Yeah, yeah. I need to add to that script there, sir. And so we did that and he said, all right, well, let's do this, let's do two weeks on, two weeks off. Mind you, I'm into this gig now a year and some change, so this is just trying to get your mind right.
Speaker 2:Just trying to get this, yeah, so, ladies, I'm, I'm telling you, do not give up, do not give up. So I'm a year and a half maybe into this literally scientific project is basically what it what it is.
Speaker 1:Uh, medicine is called those rats that they talk about.
Speaker 2:It was me Thank you.
Speaker 1:I was the rat From all the women out there. Thank you, yes, yes.
Speaker 2:And that's exactly why I want to share this with with the entire world, because, oh my goodness, it is a full on real, real thing. But, um, so we do the two weeks on and two weeks off and and I'm doing a combination of medication, so it's a antidepressant mixed with a um, what do you? You know what's called that. Wait for it.
Speaker 1:I mean you want to uh not a.
Speaker 2:I mean, anyways, it's with another medication and Upper and downer, and yeah, pretty much, and so I always take the two at the same time and never take one without the other one. Ssri Could be, I don't know.
Speaker 1:That's your-.
Speaker 2:Okay, I don't know.
Speaker 1:I don't know, I train camels, fine, fine, I get my ass stamped by-. We have Dave Frank gives, and I'm failing at not For a living.
Speaker 2:You're in the medical deal.
Speaker 1:I forgot what you said.
Speaker 2:I don't wanna mention all the meds. But you know you guys can reach out to me.
Speaker 1:I'll tell you what they are, but combinations of things and Because it works with your-. You made you feel better and get less mad, and then your body felt better, and-.
Speaker 2:Kind of so it took. So we start the two weeks on and the two weeks off, because I can't really get my groove together and I'm still kinda yeah, I'm still off, you know whatever.
Speaker 1:That's hard.
Speaker 2:Off kilter. I'm still Ain't right. No, I'm still, yeah, walking, taking time bomb with night sweats and shit And-.
Speaker 1:And then you're the one that has to wash the sheets. It's so annoying. Yes, go on.
Speaker 2:So I come back and I do that, we do that for like another six months, and then I come back and he says, well, how are things going? And I said, well, I'm sick. He goes what? I was like I'm sick and he's like what do you mean? You're sick. And I was like I'm nauseous, I wanna puke. And he was like, wait, what? What are you even talking about? And you know me, I'm sick of all this shit, I'm sick of it.
Speaker 2:So like this is a bunch of bullshit, and I'm done and I yeah. And he said so what'd you do?
Speaker 1:And I said why I'm exactly what you told me to do.
Speaker 2:With the thing on the wall. I take it to. Yeah, all of them, I'm talking, and what did I?
Speaker 1:do In every office.
Speaker 2:And what did I do? And I said, well, I took my medicine and he goes and and I said it's the weirdest shit ever and this is what is mind blowing to me Is, within 30 minutes, it is like a freaking light switch off on, like I am spinning it in circles, losing my shit over something so stupid, so stupid and I know that it's stupid, I mean, I feel it, yes, like are you really reacting the way that you were reacting to something so stupid right now?
Speaker 1:Like you see yourself doing it but it's like I just can't turn it off.
Speaker 2:No, you know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I know what you're talking about. I mean, I'm high strung, I gotta bring it down.
Speaker 2:I just need to throw a fork at a restaurant.
Speaker 1:Listen, because I get and that you know that's probably medicated. Still, I'm just like I'm trying to bring it down a notch because I catch myself wanting to snap somebody's neck If I'm they're. Now you're writing a check at the grocery store. Oh my gosh, I don't have time for this. No, Then I have to reel it in. I know this is not rational. Yeah, you know, and this kid wants me to do projects all the time, projects and projects and projects. And I'm just like, okay, hold on.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Let's not just give me a minute. One of the times when I really realized that it was how quick the flip the flip was was I had left my medication in my motor home and yep, I literally left my house and I'm thinking I have got to talk about taking a lap. I got in a vehicular device and I drove down the road. I got back, went straight to the motor home, I took my medication and within 30 minutes I was like whoo, moosefraby or whatever you say. Yeah, moosefaba, I think that's it, however, whatever. But yeah, and and he said are you kidding me? And I said no, I said it was Welcome back.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and he said so what are you going to do? And I said once again, I am the patient, I'm the one sitting on the couch, you're the one in your role, chair, right in the notes. You got the notes, seeing computer screens. What's the plan? Yes, and he said and this is when it goes to, when I was telling you earlier how you don't want to be the one that has to take medication every day, and maybe because it's frowned upon in society, people don't talk about that and it's embarrassing.
Speaker 1:Right? You got to do whatever mental health is important. You got to do whatever it takes to keep yourself.
Speaker 2:Yes, as cool as you can be, yep. And so I have been on that I have, so now I take it all the time, every day, and so fast forward. He said you know when and if you go through menopause, or there it is the M word Inappropriate, right? He said you may be able to get off this medication and I was thinking, no shit, I mean not think about that for a minute.
Speaker 2:Once, because now that this is all hormone related Right and so, which it makes perfect sense, right. So I go, I'm on the medication full time, doing good, but I mean my body is just not, and in our family history it's my mom had a full yeah at a very young age, full on hysterectomy, and I should have had one a lot earlier than I did. But I did. I had a full on hysterectomy. No, nothing. All of it's gone and Do you have one over? I have nothing.
Speaker 1:So that's why you need the hormones.
Speaker 2:Yes, I have absolutely nothing and I didn't want them. When I was talking to my doctor, yeah, I was like so what do you think? I was like I don't. He was like if you don't need them, tiffany, why are you gonna hang on to that nonsense? It's just gonna cause more problems. Yep, sometimes it does so and I don't know if you really realized because I don't know that I realized until I went through that experience that it's basically called a forced. It's a forced menopause, right? So you go in, you have surgery, they take everything out, you have nothing left and you have nothing left, and so it's a forced menopause. So you come out and you have absolutely nothing.
Speaker 1:They really are supposed to recommend hormone therapy when that happens. Like, that's not even just your family history or your body. That's an anatomical statement.
Speaker 2:So before I even had woken up from, is that a word?
Speaker 1:Do you say woken up. Um, I think it's before I woke up as I woke up before I had woken up. No, anyways, it was that time right before you.
Speaker 2:They um, had already put a hormone patch on me before I had, and you opened up my eyes after surgery. I don't know, since y'all make fun of my gypsinary Nobody's making fun.
Speaker 2:We're trying to keep track, you know. But yeah, so they had already put a patch on me. And so, um, I that was in 2019 when I had my full on hysterectomy and um, so I did hormone therapy I'm still in hormone therapy, but this is kind of interesting and I don't know if you've run across this with any of your girlfriends or what have you but, um, there's like a a certain and I had patches, so I would put a patch on every day. Um, just a little sticky patch, and cause I don't like doing the whole pill thing, you know, and the sticky pad.
Speaker 2:It all worked great. They do have some that are like lotions and or gels that you can put on. But you have to stand there. You can't hold a baby, you can't hold it. Can you imagine?
Speaker 1:Because it transfers over to right, which is so straight?
Speaker 2:I mean, can you imagine that's?
Speaker 1:interesting, though I didn't realize all that, I guess, until you're in that situation.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean I'm going to hold on and put a gel cream on and hold onto a baby, little baby girl. It's going to grow mustache before I give it back to its mom. I'm so sorry. It was my hormone gel. I think it's the shadow. I don't just take the baby. It's five o'clock somewhere.
Speaker 1:That hair is going to fall out, don't worry.
Speaker 2:It's fine, it's fine. Yeah, I'm thinking, no, I can't do this gel. My goats are going to.
Speaker 1:I mean what's going to happen? Yeah, no, I can't do that so we'll stick to the patch.
Speaker 2:Well, and then all of a sudden, and I'm, and I'm taking my meds and I'm just, you know, everything is bebop, we're smooth sailing and I'm thinking, you know, this is so good, and then one day it's not, and I hit the brick wall again and I y'all. I don't know if it. Obgyns are so important and so, especially for a woman in this, mine is just an absolute rock star. He's one of those I could call up. I remember calling him from Vegas one time and I had forgot my patches. I called him on a cell phone. He was like now, tiffany, there's a CVS down the road.
Speaker 1:And.
Speaker 2:I was like Dr V, you do not understand, like this is. He was, like you know, you only supposed to call me for emergencies and I was like this is an emergency. I have no patches. I am in Vegas. I am about to make MSN because I'm about to lose. Just handle this. Yeah, I'm going to lose my ship, my composure, my, my, everything Like I need. The fact that I'm even calling you lets you know this is an emergency.
Speaker 1:This is an emergency. Yeah, yeah, you, I mean all you have to do is hit the send button.
Speaker 2:Yeah, tell the nurse, just to please. This is where I'm at CVS in.
Speaker 1:Vegas. There it is, yep.
Speaker 2:So I got my patches, but then they just all of a sudden stopped working and so now I do pellets. The body's a weird thing.
Speaker 1:Sometimes it works for a while. It doesn't work anymore.
Speaker 2:Only from you. So it's pretty cool, because the cell phone is not working Cause the second time I've done them, but this is for a whole new, a whole new reason, the first time I did that right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I do, I am so good.
Speaker 2:The first time I did them was before the hysterectomy, and now I do them afterwards. Well, the whole reason we're having this conversation today is cause I'm two weeks behind.
Speaker 1:Oh Lord, that episode of snap oh come out real soon, it's so bad, kel, it is unreal.
Speaker 2:Like I do not know how many women are walking up and down the streets that have had their hysterectomy or they're going through a portion of menopause or they don't know that they are even. They don't even know what the hell they're going through. Bless your hearts. I am here for you Just trying to press on it's girl. It's hard and I mean it's insane how quick and how fast I have gone from normal, normal, normal. Till Lord, have mercy.
Speaker 1:I do it.
Speaker 2:I am sweating through sheets waking up and I'm just absolutely soaking wet Like what the fuck.
Speaker 1:That's the worst. Did I have a nightmare? What's wrong?
Speaker 2:with me, oh my gosh. And then to seriously cold yeah. Do you have? Do you, what do you have? What do I have? What zero sleep. No, I mean, do you have? Like, you got some organs, you got ovaries, what do you have? I have all my things, you have all your things, ew.
Speaker 1:My sister had a hysterectomy. She only has one ovary and that thing has caused her nothing but trouble. Why, see, why'd she keep it? The doctor recommended it. See, I don't understand that it was emergent and it's given her cyst and adhesions and all kind. Nothing but trouble. No, she probably could have just taken the hormones and been off better.
Speaker 2:See, I don't understand.
Speaker 1:that is just such an interesting conversation because I don't understand the reasoning behind keeping they think that it's going to help your it's going to help your hormone situation, and then you won't have to take supplemental hormones.
Speaker 2:I call it absolute bullshit.
Speaker 1:Well, clearly she would have probably rather done that than had two extra surgeries, but I think people don't like to talk about this stuff. And then you know, I can imagine people get like depressed and you don't have anyone to share or relate to and all you have is your husband or your kids.
Speaker 2:That don't understand.
Speaker 1:No, of course they don't. You know, they can be like it's sympathizing, it can feel sorry for you, but they don't empathize, they don't actually feel.
Speaker 2:You know, we're already feeling sorry for ourself. And then you, then you get big mad. And then you, you're just. I can't express or explain the amount of emotions that go through your head, in your. It's just so frustrating. It's just so frustrating because you can't. You can't control it. You can try, no, you can absolutely try.
Speaker 1:You can talk yourself off the ledge.
Speaker 2:You can turn the music louder. Seriously, yeah, like I mean, did you just drop that spoon on purpose? Or I mean, just you just, are you chewing that loudly, just?
Speaker 1:yes, yes, get me off.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:Stop wrinkling that bag of chips in my back seat before I snap Before.
Speaker 2:I, yes, Throw you and the chips off the window. Yeah, it's a real thing All of it.
Speaker 1:You, yeah, I mean there's just so much that goes into this. And then you know, embracing this whole, like you know how old am I? I'm not young anymore, but I'm not right.
Speaker 2:But you know, you have to just kind of embrace it and define your new self and I tell you if I had a Choice and could go back, and if somebody said why didn't you do your hysterectomy sooner, my answer would be I have absolutely no freaking idea why I waited. That was absolutely I don't. I have Really I have no idea. I know that the doctors, they don't want to do them when you're younger, I guess, and but I tell you what. That was by far one of the best decisions I have ever made until All this, right now, when you're two weeks behind your pellet insert.
Speaker 2:So now, you remember so now is when there's times in my life where it's best if I just stay home and waddle in my sweat and I stay away from the general public carry them up around you know.
Speaker 2:Yeah, stay home for everyone's protection and then I thought I had an appointment this morning and I Walked in and I was like hi, I'm here for my pellet insert. And she was like no, you don't have an appointment. I was like, and then my voice, my everything's shake. Yes, I did. Yeah, ma'am. All of a sudden my horns come out of my my. You better check that computer again. Somebody better call somebody. Then call somebody. This takes all of about 10 minutes. Y'all have been doing these pellet inserts for a very long time I'm not even knows, somebody needs to get me back in that office.
Speaker 2:But so I go Friday, so I'm gonna do my best to try to be on my right place behavior, think about my choices, think about what I say.
Speaker 1:Oh, so all the way till Friday, till Friday. Well, I'll pray for you.
Speaker 2:Somebody better all the things yeah maybe there's, you know, does so with you and your sister, y'all it sounds like y'all are completely different when it comes to this hormone.
Speaker 1:We're completely different and pretty much everything every, every aspect of everything. Yep, yeah, she's introvert, extrovert you know, it's just we. I literally think they gave birth to her so I'd have someone to play with, and then she didn't want to play with me.
Speaker 2:It's like that.
Speaker 1:It's like that frozen Elsa and yeah, no, she's in there reading a book. She's like, no, I'm good, I'm like play with me please. No, she's had a rough run with that, I mean, and it was just like she's younger, or older, younger were young months apart and With her second one it was like emergency hysterectomy and then just lots of troubles After all of that and I had my tubes tied right felt like the periods get a little more serious after that. Yeah, even if you were a light day, girl.
Speaker 2:I did have my tubes tied after my third one too, Mmm.
Speaker 1:That was also, I was not sure was a great choice, which is why I got another idea, even though I have no intention of having any more children and my tubes are tied and burned and cut. Yeah, all that Are you sure you want to do that when we show you how cute this?
Speaker 2:baby yeah.
Speaker 1:Yep, yeah, sure, still sure, thank you. I don't regret that decision at all either. I see a lot of people they're like, well, you know, might want to have a try for a girl. Stop telling me to try for a girl, I know, we'll just borrow somebody's 40 years old. I am not. Yeah, I could just borrow a baby. Yeah, anytime. Yeah, oh, you think you're having baby fever? Hold this right, give it a minute. Can you keep this for a little while? Yep, oh, is it starting to stink?
Speaker 1:Yeah okay, we all got a server time, but you know, the sun will rise again. You'll be fine and be a grown-up again after you get.
Speaker 2:So if you have you ever thought about a hysterectomy, are you just gonna know I'm just gonna have any issues. So it's kind of mind-blowing that you have a IUD. Tell everybody what that is for anybody that doesn't know. I don't even the men or whatever that you're in device.
Speaker 1:There you go, yeah, yeah, and once I have that, no idea that you have that in.
Speaker 2:Your tubes are tied.
Speaker 1:Yeah, explain, that seems extreme, right so extreme.
Speaker 2:But then there's so.
Speaker 1:I've already had.
Speaker 2:It is you, I had one and then they tell you they tell you I'll have two of those if you don't mind. I am definitely not getting double yeah definitely not getting.
Speaker 1:There's no more babies. No, and they tell you when you get it out, the same with birth control you need to wait probably six months and let your cycle come back and normalize. And I never even started a period. I was waiting for that period. It never came. I was instant pregnant. So then I got another IUD and then I was like, well, this the only last, like five years, now it's like ten years. But I got it taken out and I was like, well, I'm just trying not to be pregnant at my wedding. So I like held off and managed to be pregnant by the honeymoon. So in my case I did not need to wait or track my anything. Then, after I had this baby and they, you know, tied the tubes, did the thing C-section I said I cannot deal with this. Why am I having periods and I'm not trying to have no babies anymore?
Speaker 1:right this seems obscene and excessive, and so I went in and yes, she's like you know, they can do this for Period control purposes, and so now I've not had a period in probably a year, so it stops your period, yeah some people like it makes it one day or whatever, but for me.
Speaker 2:It's always stopped it. I had no idea completely.
Speaker 1:Wow, I got tampons in the guest bathroom. Those are just for visitors.
Speaker 2:Me too. Yeah, yeah, you know, but that I had no idea.
Speaker 1:It's a kind of I had no extreme.
Speaker 2:That's why I was thinking that you I mean wine was much more God's greener. Would you have you?
Speaker 1:know that protection.
Speaker 2:Okay, have you met that little one?
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's a whole nother episode. No, but you know that I removed that complication from my life and I don't think it really affects my Hormones.
Speaker 2:I think that one has hormones in it actually, and how long does that last?
Speaker 1:I mean how ten?
Speaker 2:years? No shit, yeah. And it goes in your arm? No, oh. Why don't you tell an embarrassing story, cat, since I just talked about the seagulls and my. Okay, that goes into your cervix, it goes.
Speaker 1:And this last time I was much older and I had stirrups for this one, yeah. Yeah, they got the fuzzy socks on there.
Speaker 2:It's only gonna be weird for a second. Yeah, whatever.
Speaker 1:Yeah you know, and then, once you done it a couple times, just like whatever, no. But since I had never actually delivered a child, I had a C-section. They said, your cervix never dilated and now that you're 40 years old, they had it.
Speaker 2:I mean they really had to pry that thing in there.
Speaker 1:I almost kicked that lady in the face and walked out of there, but yeah, honsite, here I am period-free.
Speaker 2:Wow Whoo, that is really interesting. I had no idea that that was even an option or that that was Anyone. That was a thing that by choice.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh it's, it's been a dream for me. There you go, ladies. I mean, if you guys are double, up.
Speaker 2:Yeah, if you guys are, yeah, tubes tied and still periods are out of control, they will do it. Mother nature insurance will cover it.
Speaker 1:There you go. Yeah, look that showed up ten years. Yeah, ten years I'm gonna be. Let's not start dating ourselves, but it I'm gonna be good to go.
Speaker 2:That's. That is impressive, that's strong work. Thank you, thank you, yeah now it makes sense because I'm thinking kill, you're being a little extra.
Speaker 1:No, you're being a little extra right now.
Speaker 2:I mean you have no me extra snipped cut back. I want it all. Yeah yeah, that's insane, but here we are.
Speaker 1:Yeah, don't gotta worry about no periods of the beach. Well, I will be.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I cannot believe. I told that story now. Can we just let that go? Can we leave that in the beginning?
Speaker 1:of the episode. I'm sure they can do that yeah, Well, I am.
Speaker 2:I'm glad that I uh have Pulitzer an option for oh, absolutely.
Speaker 1:I don't know how people that have had it out over distract me or going through menopause.
Speaker 2:Don't take any kind of anything to replace what your body is missing.
Speaker 1:I mean well they should, and odds are them. Kids are pain in the ass and your husband's probably annoying. So you got at least chase yourself. Yes, turn it down a notch. Yes, really, yeah, it is.
Speaker 2:And talk to your friends about it. They're life-saving, they're absolutely life-saving and I have had friends that have done them before that Thought that they were gonna go in and other tired or you know they for different reasons.
Speaker 1:It's my age probably yeah, and some people.
Speaker 2:But but if you are in a predicament or you've got, you have nothing, it's, it could be a thing. It could be a thing. I mean, it's something that I would. I would say that you, definitely you've got nothing to lose at this point. You might as well get your levels checked and just get your levels checked.
Speaker 2:And that's what I do like about this is, you know you go in. They do a full-on blood panel. Now this doctor that I see now is is Definitely more of a one-on-one versus. I felt like it was a chop shop that I had seen prior to, but they're. They're more per literally like oh, what is your name? You need this.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I just don't like yeah and never get tested again and but these guys I can call and go look, I know I don't, I don't feel right or this, something's just off. Can we and they'll do another full-on blood panel and then, if for some reason we don't do them, a Blood panel in between, right when it's due? It's scheduled yearly.
Speaker 1:And this brings me to thinking about mammograms and how important mammograms are, especially when you're past 40 years old, and I know you do a. Thing here in town.
Speaker 2:Yes, Tell them about that. We do. It's once a year. Very good friends of mine went to school. We all went to school together. They were a year or two years older than I am, I believe, maybe and she had passed on, and so every year we do mimosas and mammos and it's so such a great event and it's usually in October, November-ish of every year. I'll have to keep everybody posted.
Speaker 1:We will.
Speaker 2:We'll do a big deal for that, because it's great. It started off where it was like a one day event and now it's like a full on seven day event. It is to encourage women out there to go and get your mammograms.
Speaker 1:It's not weird, it doesn't hurt, it is not. It is not. We do it at the early detection Baptist Imaging. Center off of 4-6.
Speaker 2:And those women that run that center and do this event with us are just absolutely amazing. They bring in extra machines For all you women that have breast implants. It's not a problem. I know that a lot of people are. They shy away from it because they're thinking that you can't do that because you do have implants.
Speaker 1:That is not a thing, that is not a thing whatsoever.
Speaker 2:It's not an excuse. It is not an excuse. And if you don't have insurance. It is not an excuse. That's what this event is for. But we have some great sponsors that help us. We've got goodie bags. We'll have to keep everybody posted. We will. It's a really, really, really fun event. We have great champagne, we have great mimosas, we have it's fine.
Speaker 1:I mean there's champagne.
Speaker 2:And I can tell you that if I did not, I would be slacking on the whole Mamo thing. I was slacking on the whole Mamo thing until that came to play.
Speaker 1:Well, you make it easy for people and nobody wants to go do that shit on their day off, like schedule an appointment, and I have a lot of friends that are not into that, like, oh, I just rather not know.
Speaker 2:No, you would not just rather not do it. No, no, no, no. There's no reason why you should not do it.
Speaker 1:We have so many kinds of imaging now there is no reason you should not be getting your stuff, things and checked out, especially get those mammograms.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm glad you brought that up because that's a good it is, and it's a really, really good event and it is fine and it's like I said don't let the whole insurance thing be an issue, that's what we raise this money for is for individuals, that-.
Speaker 1:I think a lot of people hold back and they think, well, I can't pay fine or dollar, or whatever. But you know what else you can't afford? Cancer, cancer.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and cancer is not racist.
Speaker 1:Cancer doesn't choose, cancer doesn't care who you are what you look like, how nice you are and how pretty you are and what a good mom you are, doesn't give a shit.
Speaker 2:They absolutely. Cancer is not.
Speaker 1:It's not racist, that's right, I'm going to the bras for the cause here this week.
Speaker 2:That is coming up.
Speaker 1:The firefighters do a big fundraiser for the I love it. Breast cancer warriors yeah, it's awesome. But I mean I feel like the more you normalize it and the more you put it out there, it's gonna be like you know what I should. I do need to do that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I think we need to talk about it more not be, not be. So I don't want to say ashamed, because it's not, it's not it.
Speaker 1:Right, but secretive and-. Impressible, or Keeping it to yourself or feeling like it's we have women have boobs.
Speaker 2:We've got JJ's, we've got hormones and we've got issues. You know what, guys? Y'all got all kinds of things to do. Y'all need to go get y'all shit checked too.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, and that's because your wives make you do it. Every little little man that comes in the hospital that's on the verge of death, he's like God damn it. My wife made me come today.
Speaker 2:Will. You're wife saved your life. You're welcome.
Speaker 1:And when you ask him what kind of meds are you on, and she pulls out the top, brought her list the whole she knows what kind of meds you're on Exactly. That's the reason you're alive right now. Yes, so y'all need to go get your Do the thing, get your stuff checked it's so important, it's not weird and she said there's gonna be a mimosas.
Speaker 2:It's so good. I'm in, yes, and we have a sweet, sweet girl. She makes the cutest little cookies and I mean I think we had two different kind of flavors of mimosas and I donate all the champagne, yeah we're in, so I'm telling you it's good champagne. So it's good, it's fun.
Speaker 1:You get goodie bags with great lotions and yeah, it's a very cool thing.
Speaker 2:I can tell you that from one of the very first ones that I went to. I literally still use one of the products that's in there, so you get so it ain't no jump, it's a win-win situation. Yeah, yeah, it's a lot of fun, but we will, we'll talk about that and I'll bring-.
Speaker 1:Keep everybody posted.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'll bring Kristian and have her come and talk about the event, and I'm so glad you brought that up, because not only is, are we not talking about having ovaries and hormones and hot flashes and night sweats, and-.
Speaker 1:Let's not forget about the girls, don't forget about you girls.
Speaker 2:It's very important Check the girls.
Speaker 1:It's very important.
Speaker 2:Yes, yeah. So Well, I feel like today was a really good talk. I feel like we talked about a lot of very important, fun things. I'm glad you're back from your trip. I'm so glad to be back.
Speaker 1:Yes, that's good. Tuesday therapy session on the porch there is yeah, we missed you last week.
Speaker 2:We missed you last week.
Speaker 1:It's good to be missed. Yes, yes, yes yes, let me miss you?
Speaker 2:That is a whole thing. That is a whole thing. Kel was so cute when we talked about, you know, my first guest outside of Kel being on the porch, she said I said it was just so different, you know, it was almost kind of calm. It was kind of and she goes oh shit, did I just get fired on my day off, which is one of our? Ongoing we joke about that we do I just think it really happened.
Speaker 2:I didn't think it was really gonna happen. It was so cute. You're damn dimple. Never get freaking fired. No, got you, got all of us. No, no, it was great. It was fun having Matt on the show. And I told him he's gonna have to come back when it's both of us. We can both give him a bunch of shit.
Speaker 1:Put him right in the middle Put him right in the middle.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yep, it'll be a good time. But hey you guys, thanks for joining us.
Speaker 1:Like, share, Get your mammograms yes, subscribe, yes, get your hormones checked If y'all are sitting in your floor crying right now.
Speaker 2:Holler at me.
Speaker 1:I hope you I've been through it all you don't have to do it alone.
Speaker 2:No, we're here for you, me and Callan and y'all can come and hang on our porch and it'll be fortunate to portion it just like we are. But yeah, you guys, we'll see you next week. Thanks for tuning in and love ya, love you.
Speaker 1:Talk to you later. Bye, bye, hold tight.